I tend to be quiet these days and keep the things God puts in my heart to myself. However, today I was moved to compassion after chatting with two of my very close friends. These two are in completely different situations but the pain and confusion is the same. We've all made mistakes but God loves us so dearly and deeply, and no mistake could ever come between his love for us. With both friends, the issue was the same - A man, a husband - A protector. So, I'm going to give out what has been given me. Happy reading.
How far with man? What's your plan and strategy on that one? Still having dreams and fantasies for now? Let me give you a secret to getting a great husband. Your husband is in Genesis 2 vs 18 and 21. Let me break it down.
Firstly, let me say that God is the first Father to give out a daughter in marriage. Isn't that exciting?
Secondly, your husband is alive and well out there. A Christian saved by grace. He is godly and has been reconciled to God through Jesus and now lives once again in the perfection of Adam before the fall; through the life and likeness of Jesus in him. (This is the most important factor God works with.)
Thirdly, the truth is that your godly husband is busy with the work God has given him to do. Whatever work that might be. It might be as a King (a workplace believer) or as a Priest (a pastor or teacher of God's word). Genesis 2 vs 20 "So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field..."
Fourthly, Marriage is God's idea- not the man's or the woman's. In Genesis 2 vs 18, the Lord God said "it is not good for the man to be alone..."
Fifthly, God wants to make you dear girl. He wants to make you fit perfectly for your husband's needs. Genesis 2vs 18b "... I WILL MAKE A HELPER SUITABLE FOR HIM."
Presently, your husband is in a deep sleep (i'd like to think of that as a sort of cluelessness about what he needs, and the fact that God has taken something out of him). Genesis 2 vs 21 says "So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh.
Having done this, God now wants to get busy with you- to make you from your husband's (rib). By rib, I mean his substance, essence and heart. Genesis 2 vs 22 "Then the Lord God made woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man". The woman is indeed God's lovely gift to the man.
After God was done making the woman, he presented her to Adam and he recognized her immediately as his wife - The first marriage! How come Adam never called any animal his wife? If you are dating a man and he is treating you as if you are a "gorilla" please flee. Sincerely, it is not his fault- he can't give what he doesn't have. He cannot value what isn't his.
What you should do is tell God to make you after the substance of the godly man he has chosen to give you. Be rest assured that your husband will wait for you in his deep sleep (because God has put him there) and he will not name a strange woman aka "a gorilla" his wife. lol. Genesis 2 vs 23 says the man exclaimed "this is now the bone of my bones and the flesh of my flesh, she shall be called woman because she was taken out of me". That's the only way you can live happily with your husband in perfect harmony- when he recognizes himself in you.
Tell God to make you, shape you, mold you, and form you, so you can really be a wife that can help your husband in his calling. Your service to God is to help your husband fulfill his service to God. When you pray in this manner, you'll see that you will begin to change on the inside, and think in a manner foreign to you. You'll start having a desire for something God will put in your heart. It might be strange, considering your background and experiences, but yet lovely and fulfilling. This is God making you- you are being made from the inside out to be a suitable helper for a blessed man out there.
Please don't leave or abandon God while he is making you. If Eve had ran away from God to Adam's arms after she got just one breast or one eye and woke him up- do you think Adam would have leapt for joy? Adam would have either fled or just calmly named her a chimpanzee and put her in the zoo with the rest of the animals. lol. That is not your portion in Jesus name. Instead she waited in the hands of the creator.
I don't even think she knew who she was being made for. All she knew was that her Father was fashioning her after brother's substance (rib). After the making, God was satsified at her perfection - then and only then did he present her to Adam. The bible didn't record how long it took the woman to be made, I doubt it took a long time. Why? because she was still and trusting in the hands of her maker. The more we fight God, the more we delay our marriages or enter into wrong ones or worse godless ones. God will not give his son a stubborn chimpanzee for a wife. lol. Women especially christian women need to forget about men and just allow God to make them.
I know it might be easier said than done- but if God's word is true and trustworthy why not calm your nerves and relax in his hands? There is a clueless man out there doing the will of his master. Now is the time for God to bless him with a wife. To do so God needs you to allow him to form you after the exact same pattern of the substance of his chosen husband for you. When God is done, he'll present you to this man, and guess what? Your husband will see your heart and passion for the work God has given you, to be the exact representation of his heart and passion for that work. He will see the way your hips swings when you sashay across the room and his heart will melt, he will be excited to the core when he sees Jesus radiate in you with the way you carry yourself, your grace, self worth and compassion for others: He will scream out "Chei! Chineke - this one na my own!" hehehe.
Daughters of the most wonderful Father in the universe, the more you run into the arms of strange men, the longer you postpone your marriages. In God's mercy, he will always rescue you from those men- he rescued me, but how long do you want to play hide and seek? If you insist on having your way with men who are yet to receive Christ, God might let you have your way eventually - but the pain and anguish you'll face as the helpers of godless men bring tears to my eyes just at the thought. Wait for God he will NEVER put you to shame.
If you are reading this, and you have already made a mistake by marrying someone that you shouldn't have. Do not worry. God respects marriages. Stay in the marriage but now is the time to find God and cry out his name. He'll save your husband and then turn him into a son after His heart. This work is what you have to do, you have to speak positively about your husband no matter what he does and back up your confessions with prayers.
On the other hand, if you are married to a christian man but you two don't see eye to eye on anything - tell God to make your husband godly. Number two, tell God to pattern your heart after the substance of your godly husband. A godly man is every woman's crown and joy. When God sees you he sees your husband - so why not hold out for the one who will bring a tender smile to God's face. Not pain or anguish on your behalf?
When you walk in the consciousness and awareness of this truth, you'll realize that NO MAN can do 419 for you. Why? because no man can have you, unless God gives you to him. My dear ladies, your men are alive and well - yes it is a present tense. Go back and study everything I have written word for word, and ask the Holy Spirit to open your eyes to see what I clearly see. It's one thing for me to see and say the truth, but I can't see for you. You have to see this truth yourself. So pray in all the sincerity that you can muster in your heart and ask for your eyes to be opened to the truth. When the light dawns on your inside, stop the prayers and start to give thanks daily for him. Talk about your husband as a present tense when talking to God about him. I will never tell you this, if I didn't know what I was talking about.
I wasn't looking for any of these truths. My heart wasn't inclined to seeking out this revelation. The Holy Spirit for reasons I'm still not sure of, woke me up and took me to this passage and taught me himself until I got it. Everyone who truly knows me, know I shy away from the talk of marriage or a man. So I was really confused when that was what I woke up with. Oh boy! Did He teach me - until I saw!
It is a reality. These days I just thank God for my husband and my children, yes, because my children are already alive. I can't see them now because I am subjected to time but God who has time in his hands see them. So I thank him daily for their lives, their first schools, their graduation etc- why? I'm not crazy. lol. God is the I AM. All of time lay before his eyes in the present. He sees twenty years from now, right now. So why won't I thank him for people who are alive in his own eyes?. hehe.
Lastly, I thank God for the marriage I already have. The marriage I am already living in- in God's eyes. Daily, he teaches me how to be a better wife; he turns me into the proverb 31 woman and shows me how to love my husband, my children and be a balanced woman in all i do. Time will bring the manifestation for me. However, it is an established family already in the spiritual realm. So this is no longer a matter of God please give me... It is now, God thank you for what I have. I'm busy being the proverbs 31 woman daily. I cover my husband wherever he is daily in God's protection and I proclaim blessings upon my children daily.
Ok! I'm going to shut up now! hahaha. Love you all dearly.
Teespice :)
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